If you’re reading this, you’re likely the more fashion-forward partner – congrats. I frequently get questions from my couples about what they should wear to their engagement sessions (which are included in a few of my wedding packages and always available to add on a la carte). There isn’t a catchall answer, but here are some things you should consider when deciding what to wear to your engagement photo session:

What to wear to your engagement session

Take inventory.

I recommend wearing something you already own, if possible. Why? Because you’ll feel more comfortable in something you’ve worn before. Save the surprises for your first look. Dig into your closets and pick out 3-5 items that you feel most comfortable in (aside from your pjs). Think, your favorite blouse or cozy sweater.

If you want to try something new and fun but aren’t crazy about committing, I recommend more sustainable options, like Rent The Runway (my FAVORITE). You can rent whole outfits, plus accessories.  Although Rent the Runways always sends you two sizes of each piece to cover the bases, I would also recommend that you make sure you try them out well before your session as well, just in case a piece doesn’t work well, feel comfortable, or move the way you want it to. Keep in mind that you’ll want to have two outfits that work for you, whether or not you plan on an outfit change.

What to wear to your engagement session

Get inspired.

Think about a theme, work of art, or song that you feel represents the relationship you have together. What feelings does it evoke for you and your partner? Think about clothes that share the same vibe, then go for it. Maybe it’s a time-honored country song that makes you want to pull out the plaid or a slow and low tune that makes you want to curl up in cozy sweaters and cuddle. 

If you’re not feeling too creative, you can add sentiment to the photos by wearing heirloom jewelry or accessories, like earrings or a belt buckle, that have been passed down for generations. Need more ideas? Pinterest is full of creative ways couples pull together their engagement photo outfits.

What to wear to your engagement session
What to wear to your engagement session

Location, location, location.

What to wear to your engagement session

Dress for the weather and the landscape. I get the want to be fancy, but save your open-toe heels for a time when you’re not hiking to your dream spot or standing in a foot of snow. Wear layers and bring accessories (like scarves and gloves) if you have a hunch the changing weather might make a turn.

Rich fabrics and jewel tones stand out against a woodsy backdrop (especially snow), and neutrals and pastels are great for a light-and-airy feel on the mountain or near the lake. If you decide to go with a bold piece, let it be a palette of color and textures for your partner’s outfit to play off of. 

What not to wear.

  • Don’t wear the same exact color or outfits–do I have to explain?
  • Avoid large patterns, trendy styles, logos, and fast fashion that you may regret in ten years. Opt for more timeless pieces, like denim, to keep the focus on you.
  • A new hairdo or makeup you’ve never tried before or that you rarely wear. You want to be recognized in your photos, right?
What to wear to your engagement session
What to wear to your engagement session
What to wear to your engagement session

This may seem overwhelming, but the more you prepare and give yourself time to try different looks, the more relaxed you’ll be during the session. Remember that it’s an opportunity for us to get to know each other’s preferences and personalities, and choosing the right outfits makes all the difference.