Oh, the ever contentious guest list. The bane of existence for nearly all engaged couples. Anyone and everyone in your family will want a say in who should come to “your” wedding. Do yourself a favor and invite the people you want. Go with your gut on this one: if you don’t like someone’s energy, even if it is a family member, you do not want them bringing that to your special day. Unfortunately, I was “strongly encouraged” by my mother to invite family members who I knew wouldn’t show up. I don’t have much of a relationship with them and when I see them it’s generally contentious or a day full of complaints. I went against my gut and gave in to my mom’s request. I sent the invitations, and even when I didn’t receive RSVPs, I called to check in and they said they would be there. Well, guess what… they didn’t show up. It was a big group and the worst part was not the fact that we lost money by including them in the catering and bar counts, but that I actually thought they might be there and ended up a little disappointed in that on my wedding day.
Don’t let that happen to you. A wise friend told us, the people you can’t or don’t want to invite will eventually get over it and if they truly want to celebrate your love, they can invite you over for dinner, coffee or drinks. It doesn’t have to be at your wedding.
Your wedding day is exactly that. It’s YOUR WEDDING DAY. Don’t let other people make it about them. Stand your ground, hire people you like and invite only those you love. And of course, when the day comes, enjoy yourself to the fullest.
Venue: Milestone Georgetown | Day Of Coordination: Mariah Steinbaugh | Officiant: Bishop LA Wilkerson | Invitations: Mixbook | Bakery: Kiss My Cakes | Catering: Chef Vi’s Catering | DJ: DJ Steady B | Bride’s Attire: Signature Bridal | Groom’s Attire: Jos A Bank | Wedding Party Attire: Signature Bridal and J.C. Fashions Mens Wear | Makeup: Nia Ford of I Bless Faces | Hair: Tiffany Nicole Peterson of TNL Salon | Videographer: Martin Ramos with Gorilla M3dia | Badass Babe Second Photographers: Lisa Hause and Ilana Natasha